Hope you enjoyed Erica’s insight and tips!
30 Dec 2011 1 Comment
Hey there Neighbors!!!!
It is almost time to ring in a New Year and for some this could be relationship hell. So I have a guest poster, Erica St. Claire who will talk to you about how to strengthen your relationships for 2012! (I personally am single but it is still an awesome read!) ENJOY!!
Relationship Resolutions for 2012
With Christmas behind us, the New Year is almost here bringing with it a time for wiping our slates clean and getting excited for what a brand new 365 days has in store. So while brainstorming resolutions that will make for a healthy and prosperous 2012, why not ditch your usual plans to go to the gym, eat more vegetables, and save your pennies (let’s get real, these plans come with good intentions but never stick past the second week in January anyways) and instead resolve to expend your energy on improving your relationship!
So put on your most festive attire, grab a glass of champagne, and as you countdown to sharing the first kiss of the New Year with your other half at the stroke of midnight, be sure to make the following relationship resolutions guaranteed to deliver you your happiest year yet:
Resolution #1: Communicate better. It’s no surprise that the key to any successful relationship is communication. So if you’re the type who tends to close up and build a fortress around your emotions when times get tough, say goodbye to your old ways. Talk openly and clearly with your partner about whatever is bothering you. This will help them understand what you’re feeling and will put an end to disagreements faster… which will in turn strengthen the bond the two of you share.
Resolution #2: Spend more time together. In this day in age with schedules revolving around work, school, hobbies and never-ending to-do lists, it can be difficult to find the time for your significant other. This year, make it a point to take your relationship off the back-burner and put it at the top of your priorities. Plan at least one night a week that is dedicated to spending quality time with one another—whether the two of you make reservations at the hottest restaurant in town, go bowling, or even just spend a night in cooking and watching a movie, the time spent with one another will be special and a much needed break from your hectic worlds.
Resolution #3: Be trusting. At times it can be difficult not to let the jealous feelings get the best of you, but if your partner has never dishonored your trust before, then there is no reason not to give it to them now. Anytime those untrusting feelings come sneaking up, remind yourself to relax, take a breather, and make a conscious effort to focus your thoughts elsewhere. Without trust, what good is it to carry on dating that person?
Resolution #4: Try new things. If you find yourselves getting bored in the same old routine, 2012 is the year to mix it up! Search your area for art classes, cooking lessons, go rock-climbing, or even explore local museums. When you try new things and share experiences like these with your partner, you will be making memories and building your connection by way of learning something new together.
Resolution #5: Let go of the past. When you hold onto exes or problems from previous relationships, you are doing nothing but hindering the relationship you are in now and being unfair to your new boyfriend or girlfriend. Make a resolution to forget about your exes—they are exes for a reason. Don’t harp on what could’ve been or what you could’ve done differently—instead, look at your past as a learning experience so that you can move forward with those lessons and embrace new beginnings with your partner in the New Year.
Resolution #6: Be positive. Nothing is more unattractive than negativity. For that reason, try your best to maintain a positive outlook not only on love, but on life in general. Every couple faces their hardships, but during these times it is more important than ever to reflect on the positive parts of your relationship and what you love about your partner. Focus on what the two of you do right in your partnership and do more of whatever that may be. Remember, positivity attracts positivity.
Resolution #7: Love honestly. It’s a given that honesty is an integral part of any healthy romantic bond between a man and a woman—but sometimes people forget the importance of being honest with themselves. No matter how bad you may think you want the relationship to work, if your gut is telling you something isn’t right and he isn’t “the one,” don’t ignore that intuition. You owe it to yourself and you owe it to the other person to be truthful about your feelings. If it isn’t meant to be, bow out with honesty and keep your heart open to finding love again.
Guest post author, Erica St. Claire, is a relationship expert who enjoys writing about dating and romance. In addition, Erica also spends her free time contributing to Best Catholic Dating Sites where she educates singles on the importance of safe internet dating.
Hope you enjoyed Erica’s insight and tips!